In looking around for some other blogs to follow I found desiringGod (from John Piper's ministry.) This article by Abraham Piper which takes my own posts on inclusion one pretty uncomfortable step further. We like to think of disabilities as "mistakes"...unfortunate occurrences as our children are developing. To recognize that God is in control of these "mistakes" is shocking and controversial. Yet we want God to be in control of everything else. The amazing thing is that His sovereignty is total whether we can accept it or not. He can use "special needs" to teach all of us more about Him, and to make us all aware of our great need for Him, a need that we all share.
If you have time to listen to the testimony of the dad's talk that this article is summarized from, it will give you new perspective on being a special needs parent.
My earlier series on inclusion starts here.