Thursday, March 22, 2012

Rest...

...I am finding it somewhat elusive again. I've written about this before - receiving lots of advice that I couldn't quite follow and plenty of empathy from fellow rest seekers. Things have gotten a lot better than they were when I hit bottom. The dishes are (mostly) done, and so is the laundry. I've started tackling my closets one at a time. I am finding a lot of satisfaction in making progress on those particular pits of chaos. The rest of the house doesn't quite show how hard I've been working, but oh well.

It hit me the other day, however, when I could barely force myself out of bed to get started on the day, that I need to start making MY rest a priority. What made it obvious was all of the energy my children had that particular morning. They were running circles around me; quite happy and "productive" in their own way. I realized that we have always made it a point to get them enough sleep. Almost nothing gets in the way of getting them to bed on time. When we have a late night we arrange it so they can sleep later the next day, and I still INSIST on "nap time" for the twins even though they don't actually sleep every time...every once in a while they do which I interpret to mean that they still need it.
Resting via RaGardner4 on flickr

Meanwhile my own sleep seems to take a back seat to just about everything else. Housework I'm happy to put off (really!) but work, writing, food prep, facebook, and e-mail have all been known to keep me burning the midnight oil.

So one of the suggestions that I failed to enact last time I ranted about rest was - define a quitting time. I'm going to try this out for a week and see what happens. I'll try to report back and let you all know how it goes. If it's not done by midnight it will just have to wait...

Since I'm already past my deadline for tonight, I guess I'll close. And go get some rest. Night night...

This post is participating in the Jenny Matlock AlphabeThursday blogfest. Click the icon below to see other offerings inspired by the letter R.
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I think that I am like you! I just get so caught up with my laptop and reading and other distractions that I end up going to bed later and later. As a pre-k teach in my late 50's (ugh) i sometimes run out of steam. I have cut down my coffee to one cup a day and that has helped. BEWARE of pinterest.....I love it but one minute it's 8 o'clock and the next time I look up it is 10! But such wonderful ideas and I love how everyone shares their ideas! Thanks for stopping by!
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Thanks Mrs C. - it is funny how I get a second wind after the kids are in bed and the house is quiet and it's hard to stop when I know the next day is already too full of things to do. So far Pinterest hasn't been that big a draw to me, though I think it is handy to put stuff there when I want to remember it and look at it later. Someday maybe I'll get just as hooked on that. Facebook is my vice, I must admit.
I was staying up too late blogging...so many post to read that I just had to put a stop to it. Blogging is supposed to be fun not a priority for me. I got off Facebook when I decided I didn't really want to know when someone was BBQing or doing laundry or all the minute details of others lives. And guess what? I don't miss it one bit!
Rest is very important especially if you have young children. ~Ames
1 reply · active 678 weeks ago
Thanks, Ames - yes priorities. That is the secret isn't it. Knowing I now have a deadline has *started* to make me aware of what needs to be done first, but I must say it is a work in progress.
I never seem to get enough rest either. I need to start turning my computer off at 10 and be done for the day
1 reply · active 678 weeks ago
10! Seems like I'm usually just getting going at 10! :-) Thanks for stopping by, Becky!
Too many other things are going on in my life right now and getting online is no longer a priority. I'd much rather get some much needed rest. I've had some people that don't understand, but when they've walked in my shoes then they can judge. There are only so many hours in the day.
I think as Mom's we need to find a way to become less invisible in the equation of self care.

Things go by the wayside with our families needs...

...but when we get totally run down we can't help any of them.

This was really a thoughtful and thought provoking link to the letter R.

I can very much relate to your words here.

Thanks for sharing them.

A+
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Thanks, Jenny - always glad to get that mark of approval from you. And you are right, I need to take care of myself so that I can take care of them. So hard to remember, but so important!
You're right about how important it is to rest. I think of midnight as rather late, especially when I have to be up early for work. Setting a night time limit is a good idea. It might even help to set an alarm clock so that midnight doesn't slide by unnoticed. Look after yourself. In the end, your children benefit from a you that is full of energy :)
I admit we are on a bit of a late schedule. We don't get up until 7a, so at midnight if I pop straight into bed and get to sleep I can still get 7 hours (ish) of sleep which is better than the 5 or so that has been more the trend lately.
After a week of trying to stop at midnight what I am finding is that I am more motivated (usually - not today so much) to get stuff done earlier in the day. I am not getting the energy boost that I was hoping for (yet) but hopefully that will come if I stick to it. It is pretty dang hard to make myself stop though. I have been late a couple of nights, so I guess i need to be my own personal drill sergeant or something...You. Bed. NOW!
define a quitting time--that's a good plan. I need to stick with my defined bedtime.
I found at some point when my kids were young that I needed to get an hour more of sleep then I had been getting. Doing that made me a better, more patient mom.

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